SHARON WITT TALKS ABOUT ‘CRUSHES!’
DJ1: Sharon Witt’s here. Kids are always alright and the Kid whispering segment. Good morning Sharon.
SHARON WITT: Good morning guys. Happy Monday.
DJ1: Happy Monday.
DJ2: Happy Monday.
SHARON WITT: Kids are back at school, kids are alright.
DJ2: Now, Sharon and I were talking on Facebook last night Ken about what we could talk about today. And, we decided it was just gonna be Keith Urban.
SHARON WITT: We couldn’t think of anything else.
DJ1: Keith Urban of The Voice.
DJ2: We thought, let’s just talk about Keith and how lovely he is. But I think we’re probably not allowed to, so.
SHARON WITT: No, we can’t just talk about Keith and how wonderful and encouraging he is.
DJ2: And how he’s baby to everybody.
SHARON WITT: Yeah. But we can talk about crushes. We can talk about it.
DJ1: Crushes, now, this is affecting a lot of kids right?
SHARON WITT: Yeah, well they do. I mean, who hasn’t had a primary school crush or a high school crush?
SHARON WITT: We all have, you know. And we could have adult crushes too, like Keith Urban. But look, there’s an article on the paper today that says schools are calling for more help to support smitten students as young as 9 who have been counseled over relationship woes. Yes, because look, it really does start, look, grade four, grade five, is when they start to have these little, you know, little boyfriend/girlfriend things. And I’m not saying they are all having relationships, they’re not, but, you know, they start to look at the boys in, you know, different lights and the girls in different lights and they do start to have little boyfriend/ girlfriend thing.
DJ1: Do you see that kids like this at school?
SHARON WITT: All the time.
DJ1: Practically, how does this had affect you?
SHARON WITT: Okay, well, practically, you know, I’m a secondary teacher, so obviously there is more boyfriend/girlfriends in high school and we have a preview to some of that. But they do, you know, have break downs. I mean they do, sometimes they’re going out for few weeks, sometimes few hours, sometimes a few months, sometimes a few minutes. And when they break up, especially for the girls, and I don’t wanna single out girls and boys here but you know the guys are like “yeah, whatever”. But the girls.
DJ2: Like nothing changes.
SHARON WITT: The girls really take it seriously and you know they might not wanna come to class and you know they are upset.
DJ2: It’s hard as an adult because you sort of look at and go “Oh common, get over. You’re just kids it’s not love.” But when you are a teenager.
DJ1: Yeah, when you’re 9 years old.
DJ2: It’s your world isn’t it?
SHARON WITT: It does feel very real.
DJ1: Is it serious at 9 years old as in a teenager?
SHARON WITT: No, it’s not that serious. But they do still, you know, that they still have that little relationship and then it does still hurts when they break up with you. But in high school, I think it’s a little bit more difficult and I think as parents we really just need to, you know, you wanted to say “Oh common there’s more fish in the sea. You know it’s gonna be okay.” But we’ve got to remember what it was like for us when we were in high school, you know, like primary. And it does matter, and it does matter if our friend then is going out with that boy a few weeks later, you know few hours later. You know, it does matter.
DJ1: Can you use the same methods like take your 9 year old out for a retail therapy to get over it, or is it.
DJ2: That’s not helping, surely.
SHARON WITT: I don’t think it’s serious then, but I think it is important to just instill with our young people that, you know, it’s about how they feel about themselves and somebody else isn’t going to make us feel better and make us feel positive about ourselves. But we just, you know, it’s great to that little sort of friendships and I try to encourage the kids to concentrate on having friendships. It’s good to have boy/girl friendships but to not be bugged down in they’re my boyfriend or girlfriend
DJ2: I was not allowed to have boyfriend in high school.
DJ1: But did you?
DJ2: No, I didn’t. But no one was interested. Because my mom said “you are not allowed to, you need to concentrate on your studies.”
SHARON WITT: Yeah, and it’s very important, it’s hard for our kids because the shows that we’re often watching at family time, Neighbors, Home and Away, all those sorts of shows, they’ve got boyfriends. So how are our kids supposed to navigate that time when that’s the model they’re seeing. So, we just wanna encourage them to, to not you know, I was gonna say remain single, but you know, to not focus on the boys and the girls in that way. Hang out, have lots of friends, do lots of stuffs together as groups and concentrate on being the best they can be. Because really, you know, whenever I put kids in groups at school I always have a laugh and I go, “Okay, you don’t have to marry them, you know, it’s not gonna be like, you know, you’re forming a relationship. You’re just working with them on a group for just three minutes or whatever.” So, it’s important just to put it all in perspective, you know, this person you are going out with in year 7 is most likely not gonna be husband, although my husband was in year 11 when I was in year 7 and we did, we met years later.
SHARON WITT: But he was at my school in year 11 and I was in year 7, so I always say to the girls.
DJ1: I was 18 when I met my wife.
DJ1: 18, it’s still, just status, you know, arrangement.
SHARON WITT: I must say, I wasn’t going out with him at school. It was like he was at the school then but we were going out when we were 20.
DJ1: That’s amazing!
DJ2: Thank you Sharon for the words of wisdom.
DJ1: Good story. Let’s be sensitive and at the same time bring perspective.
SHARON WITT: Wonderful.
DJ1: Thank you Sharon.
SHARON WITT: Have a great week guys.
DJ1: See you next week.